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Stephen's avatar

As a gay man, I appreciate the support of our straight allies, I really do, but honestly they’re a little naive. I’m not even that old—I came of age in the mid 2000s— and yet I distinctly remember my classmates saying the f-slur 25 times a day, parents in the town campaigning against the school’s gay-straight alliance, and President Bush’s reelection campaign focusing on gays being the biggest threat to the American family the world had ever seen. And while I’m happy about the progress we’ve made since then, especially on gay marriage, I have always known that all that homophobia didn’t just magically disappear in ten years. Yet our straight allies, many of whom hilariously don’t seem to have realized until like, 2012, that gays were facing discrimination, decided in like 2015 to start broadcasting rainbow flags everywhere and having pride events at Target and in middle schools. I appreciated that, of course, but I immediately knew that the backlash would inevitably come, and it’s just a little funny to me how our well meaning, naive progressive allies seem so shocked by it. If they want to keep advocating for LGBT rights issues, I wish, frankly, that they would be a little more strategic and a lot less naive.

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Rick Gore's avatar

On: “they have to be willing to get on the popular side of 70-30” - I think it’s a little more complicated than that. It’s okay to be on a the 30 side of an issue- but you have to be willing to resolutely defend it. Mario Cuomo repeatedly vetoed (popular) laws to reinstate the death penalty in New York and was still repeatedly reelected. But he didn’t do what Harris did with Prop 36- try to slink away- he owned his decision as consistent with his values. I think you can do that on a handful of issues if you are largely on the popular side of everything else. But you do have to own it.

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