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Meghan R's avatar

Fantastic Josh and totally agree. As someone who has not one but two addicts in their immediate family, it is a burden I would not wish upon anyone. Everything is constantly frantic and chaos. You love them and hate them all at the same time, and every (often bad) decision they make dominates your life as you're left to clean up whatever mess they created. The only way to not have this is to totally let them go, and that is a very, very hard thing to do, especially as a parent. I've seen that battle up close and most parents at their core just can't do it. They always hang onto hope for them, often neglecting their other kids who are not addicts, their relationships with them and others to make that happen. Biden is no different than thousands of other Americans in this aspect.

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Lizzy's avatar

This is exactly right and it’s an all too familiar pattern to people with loved ones with addiction issues. I also think it’s worth noting that Hunter suffered a serious brain injury as a young child, in the same accident that took his mother’s life. This doesn’t get discussed as much (beyond mention of the obvious trauma of him having lost his mom), but it seems very plausible that Hunter’s “traumatic brain injury” (per the New Yorker) irrevocably affected the areas of Hunter’s brain relating to impulse control. This also makes it extra hard to simply show Hunter some “tough love”—how do you do that if you privately suspect he truly can’t help himself?

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